TIL Emmental de Savoie exists
I was about to post the um, ackshyually meme, then luckily checked myself.
Emmental is a cheese of Swiss origin that takes its name from the valley crossed by the river of the same name: the Emme. While the name’s origin is Swiss, the history of this unique cheese is shared by Switzerland and the Savoie region
Mmmm… cheese… snack time
The actual, living person that was Jesus Christ, performing one of his reported miracles. I’m leaning towards him walking on water or multiplying the bread and fish.
choose one or more of the traditional starting ones: Mort, Small Gods, Guards! Guards!. If you read all three of those and like it, just go back to Colour of Magic and read in publication order. The world evolves as he writes and it’s a better experience.
This here. This is what I recommend to everyone I introduce to Discworld.
I haven’t kept count of how many readthroughs I’ve done, but every few years I do one too. I had my copy of Guards Guards rebound recently because it was literally falling to pieces.
Another Saffer here, shocked to learn RW isn’t known globally.
Sorry about your experiences with your uncle, sounds rough. Don’t let him continue to ruin good stuff for you going forward. EMDR therapy can help you re-process memories and reduce the emotional impact, give you some distance, if you need. Sending you a hug.
Cook it in stock instead of water for an easy taste upgrade. I just mix a stock cube in the water before adding it to the rice.
Getting married is effectively signing a communal property contract, which can still have significant legal and financial implications in the developed world. Not all developed countries have the same legal system.
Also, traditional is not the same as romantic. There is nothing romantic about asking the dad, she’s not property. Some traditions deserve to die.
Edit to add: also absolutely shell out on a ring if you want. Just be sure it’s actually what you want, not what you think you should do.
Yours is a lovely solution in a culture where asking is still common. As a feminist, I would suggest that this approach is expanded to inform both parents simultaneously though, not just the father.
That said, I stand by my viewpoint that OP’s partner’s wants are the most important consideration. Personally, unless my partner wanted advice or assistance from my parents related specifically to the proposal, I wouldn’t have expected my parents to know about the proposal before I did.
My dad knew this though, so he once told my partner during a family dinner that he approved of him 🤭 My brother nearly fell off his chair laughing and told my partner to run while he still could.
Also, my mom has zero poker face, so if he told her I would have immediately known something is up - so maybe don’t tell them too far in advance, either 🤣
Edit: reshuffled some wording, plus:
it also depends on the ages (and generational expectations) of OPs prospective in-laws. I don’t know how long ago your proposal was but mine was quite a while ago now.
The concept of an expensive engagement ring is based on the realities of a different era, as is asking her dad for permission.
At a time when women couldn’t have bank accounts, their jewellery was their emergency savings. The engagement ring in particular was a way for a man to prove that he could financially provide for her, and for her to show to the world that she made a good financial match. This is why engagement rings have historically been very expensive status symbols.
Today, the engagement ring is about love, not status. So forget about what you “should” do and show her that you love her, by thinking about what she would appreciate most.
I wouldn’t ask her dad unless she is very traditional and extremely close to her dad i.e. only do this if you believe that she would like that and that he will say yes (and yes, it is very patriarchal).
What do you think she would value more - having you propose with a ring, or going shopping for a ring together? She will have to wear it, so making sure that she loves it is more important than the price.
Stick to what you can realistically afford, bearing in mind that weddings and honeymoons are expensive too. Might she prefer a less expensive ring and a nicer honeymoon?
3a) Definitely don’t overspend on a natural diamond. The value of natural diamonds in typical engagement ring sizes (< 1 carat) have fallen dramatically in the last 10-15 years, you can see a fun chart here: https://www.pricescope.com/diamond-prices/diamond-prices-chart/ (Ask me how I know 🙃)
Above all, remember that this is meant to be a fun and exciting time for both of you, so forget about what others expect and focus on what would make you the happiest in the long term.
Yep. I found this explanation online:
https://www.ukgameshows.com/ukgs/NumberWang