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Cake day: March 7th, 2024

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  • I also rush to take a label for me that I am this, this and this, and get myself limited to that specific identity.

    It sounds like you know what the basic problem is: you find something, and take it as a part of your actual identity, letting it define you.

    Instead of focusing on just one thing and labeling yourself with it, do many things - and have them be things that you do.

    And sit down and think about what you’re finding so attractive about these things, then work against that attraction. Is it because these groups offer a community? Then don’t link yourself to just one community. Is it because it gives you a pre-set list of approved behaviors and opinions? Explore beyond the approved. Is it because you’re not sure who you are and this makes you easier with yourself (something we all go through)? Go out and do a variety of things - do things by yourself, do them with others, go places and do things that you wouldn’t normally.

    Don’t focus exclusively on one group or type of groups, look for a range of groups and activities. And if there’s something interesting that you can’t find a group for, go do it anyway, just because it interests you.

    Good luck!


  • This is possibly a temporary solution, but if they’re restructuring, ask them if there’s a place in the new structure that you could fit into, even if it’s for a lower amount of pay. If applicable, emphasize your knowledge of the organization, procedures, processes, etc - all the nuanced institutional knowledge that you have. Even if the new job isn’t directly in your skill set, even if it’s a pay cut or part-time/less hours, it can buy you time to look for a new job.











  • Good. Data centers are toxic to the environment, to the public, and to public life; they should be toxic to politicians as well.

    Edit: I love this line from the article:

    “None of this would matter if voters liked what they were getting from the data centers, but they don’t see the benefit. ‘You’ll pay higher energy prices, but either you’ll lose your job or your 401k will collapse’ isn’t a deal most voters are eager to take,” Cassino added.



  • Sigh. That under Swedish law, it’s entirely probable that Julian Assange did rape that woman (reddit fanbois are a special kind of special).

    That Elon Musk is not a real-life Tony Stark, but is in fact a slightly autistic narcissist who insists on inserting himself into the public eye and has an excellent PR team (reddit fanbois are a special kind of special).

    That covid is real, and is bad, and is in fact deadly; and that vaccines are good, not a government conspiracy, and may save not just your life, but the lives of your families and friends.

    Probably one of those three.


  • The trades have somewhat more risk of injury than, say, sitting at a computer all day, particularly if you’re working as hard as your schedule implies. Does your job, union or state have disability insurance, or the option for it? If not, can you purchase it from an instance broker ? If so, get disability coverage; and if there are multiple levels, get the one with the highest coverage.

    Now, double-check all of the following with an independent insurance broker, as the rules may have changed since I did this, or your local area may be different than mine.

    In my area, this is key: pay for your disability benefits POST-TAX. You’ll generally have the option to pay pre-tax (your income is reduced by the account of the insurance payment, then you pay tax on what you take home) or post-tax (your income including the insurance payment is taxed, then they deduct the insurance payment).

    The reason this matters: if you haven’t paid tax on the premiums and you end up getting disabled, then those benefits will be taxed; but if you’ve paid tax on the premiums, then your benefits are tax-free. If you pay pre-tax, then you’ll have a little extra money each paycheck; but if you become disabled, then you’ll lose a bunch of your disability payments to taxes during a stressful period with extra expenses. If you pay post-tax, then you take home a little less money each week (not a concern in your situation); but if you become disabled, then you don’t lose any of your disability pay to taxes.

    I’ll also add: for your car insurance, it’s entirely up to you what coverage you get for collision and comprehensive, but always opt for the maximum amount of personal injury protection you can get. And if you’re going to be stacking up your assets like you hope to do, please consider an umbrella policy to help protect those assets.

    Good luck!