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  • pmk@piefed.cato196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneReassurance rule
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    18 hours ago

    I recognize everything you say and the tone of it, and I’m just immune to that angle. If you take a step back and look at it, it’s an appeal for more reassurance. I’m just saying that for your partners sake, and if you actually want the relationship to work, the best thing you can do is working on your confidence. If you don’t, every “But baby I do love you let me show you” will gradually become hollow words, and eventually filled with resentment. That’s not what you actually want, right?


  • pmk@piefed.cato196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneReassurance rule
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    1 day ago

    I’m 7 years into a relationship like this. I love her, but it’s breaking us apart. If you love your SO, please don’t neglect your mental health. What is reassuring and cute to you can become a taxing chore with time until one person is more like a caretaker than a lover.








  • pmk@piefed.catoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.worldHows the Fedi doing?
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    25 days ago

    there really isn’t a lot of divergence

    There’s plenty of divergence, for example we have everything from Debian to NixOS users, and heck even the odd BSD user. And they don’t even agree on which text editor is the best for programming, so there’s plenty to discuss.



  • I interpreted the question less about kde vs gnome, and more about kde or gnome vs other desktops. Maybe OP intended the former now that I read it again. I used to have heavily personal setups of DWM or CWM back in the day, with lots of small scripts to cover some functionality, but now I just want the “default” because the OS itself stopped being my hobby. Nothing against KDE, I just found GNOME to be more polished out of the box and stayed.









  • My general advice at this point is, if you haven’t already, to document the setup for your future self. It quickly gets out of hand with the amount of passwords, credentials, certificates, firewall settings, docker containers left and right, configs, workarounds, custom shell scripts, ansible scripts, git repos, backup locations and passwords, etc. Right now everything is fresh in your mind, but 6 months from now you may need to restore from a backup or an OS upgrade goes wrong, and then you’ll appreciate being able to remember the details.