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  • Some (possibly incomplete) thoughts:

    I think stuff like urban planning and designing walkable environments would be cool, but I’m not sure if that’s a viable path in 2027 and beyond.

    So you have the option of looking outside the country? Because there are definitely countries (especially in Europe) who are doing a lot on that direction, that might offer something interesting. Also, tuition will be lower almost everywhere outside the US, so you don’t put on nearly as much debt, for the case that it ends up being the “wrong” degree. Plus, your chronic health issues would likely be much better taken care of there.

    I also used to be interested in programming, but ever since AI and mass layoffs hit the scene, I’ve become disillusioned and stopped pursuing that path.

    Depending on your situation, you might still be able to learn programming and build your skill set by contributing to the open source works. With some luck, the AI bubble will burst and we’ll be somewhat back to something normal again, where “normal” programmers will be needed.

    Is staking your sense of stability on your career the wrong way to think about this?

    Generally, you don’t want all your eggs in one basket. Any one thing can break away. I had a job for quite a while which was great and a perfect source of stability, it even helped me through some really dark times. Then things changed and it’s no longer a stability anchor. If I staked my entire stability on that, I would have been a goner. Try to find stability on friends, family (if feasible), hobbies, etc. Of course, that’s much easier said than done, but that is generally the way you want to go.


  • German: Konjunktiv I and II. Most people first learning German will hear the Konjunktiv II in its usage similar to a subjunctive in english (“Wenn das so wäre” - “If it were that way”), but it does so much more. You can switch full sentences to the Konjunktiv II, but that immediately implies that you doubt the statement being presented. For instance, if you say “er hätte es vergessen”, you’re essentially saying “he allegedly forgot it, but I really doubt it”, just by using the Konjunktiv II.

    Then, there’s the Konjunktiv I, which is similar, but instead of voicing your disapproval, you’re staying completely neutral. Taking the example from before, it would be “er habe es vergessen”, with which you’re saying, “he allegedly forgot it, and I neither support nor disavow that statement” - again, all only with a change of verb form. It’s wonderful when you’re relaying something someone else said without adding your own evaluation.













  • As much as this is the right answer, I understand where OP is coming from.

    OP: to expand: you’re not responsible for other people’s fears or phobias. The best thing you can do is exactly that: nothing, just act as if the person were a guy you don’t know. Trying to “prove” you’re not a threat is exactly the thing a person who is a threat would do, so you’re going to set off a whole bunch of alarm bells by doing that. And that’s not just valid for women - at least I would be kind of creeped out if some guy did some of the things some people have mentioned in this thread.